A 50 Minute Hour

Seinfeld, the sitcom, was just ending as I walked into a friend’s house, many years ago. While I never actually watched the series, it often played in the background while I was at various friend’s homes over the years. So much so that I generally got the plot. On...

All Blood is Red

While there have been many, three stands out events aided my own personal confrontation with racism. The first one is, and what the initial trigger was, I have no recollection? All I hear now in my head is a snippet of that conversation … and … as if those words were...

Three People in your head by Rosemary Knapper

In this podcast my colleague and friend Rosemary Knapper from the UK talks about how everyone can use counselling skills to aid communication and improve interpersonal skills. While doing so she also indirectly and beautifully articulates the difference between...

Within Fear And Vulnerability Realness Arrives

Have I found working online and within the confines and pressures of COVID-19 different? I would have to admit the answer to this question is a resounding yes. In fact, it would be an unequivocally yes. That might beg the question … how so? This question has nothing...

Reflections on COVID-19 in the Room

As the heat began to subside from the Australian summer so did one’s sense of safety, joy, freedom and all that we know. We began to hear murmurings of a virus … quickly that virus became a pandemic. In a few short days, this virus began to deconstruct and derail life...

Money

I am frequently asked for the name of a psychotherapist working in a similar style, ethos and paradigm to myself. This can be a random request or from a client, for someone they know. One recent conversation along these lines was a little different. I had, some years...

Sharing Your Psychotherapist A Caution

From people who have been in psychotherapy for some time, there is a frequent request for a referral. If the experience has been good, the client may often ask if you will see their intended referee. As a psychotherapist we do not, see friends and family of clients …...

Procrastination

  As I busied myself doing nonimportant tasks, I knew I was in avoidance or worse, procrastination. As a rule, I feel like a well-rounded, relatively insightful person, so why was it then that I was not doing the study, research and writing I needed to be doing...

What is self care

What is self-care … really? We might often be lead into thinking self-care is shopping with a friend, having a massage, eating chocolate, a good football match, a night out drinking with friends, even a soak in a hot bathtub. While this can often calm us temporarily...

The Key

The unconscious is the Key to all-important knowledge …. It is very easy to get caught up with the client’s avoidance … I do it all the time. I try to console myself with the fact that if I was to burrow into every opening a client presents, every opening that we...
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